Los Angeles, CA
Couples Therapy
Online Therapy For California Residents
Do You And Your Partner Feel Like You’re No Longer On The
Same Team?
Have you lost sight of that initial spark that made you fall head over heels for each other?
As time has passed, do you feel like your goals and interests have changed so much that it’s hard to get back on the same page?
Are you looking to restore your connection and rekindle your intimacy, but you’re not sure where to start?
Maybe you’ve been feeling undesired, undervalued, and unappreciated within your marriage or relationship. Perhaps communication feels harder, trust isn’t what it used to be, and a lack of kindness and respect has made it harder to feel the connection you once shared. When you compare your relationship today to what it used to be, you feel defeated—it’s like you’re two different people now, and you’re not sure how to get your connection back. As a result, maybe you’re thinking about seeing a couples therapist.
You May Feel More Like Roommates Than Romantic Partners
Perhaps you’re not fighting all the time, but it’s clear that something in your relationship is missing. The two of you don’t go out and have fun like you used to, and you hardly eat dinner together or engage in shared activities anymore. It’s like you’re just two ships passing in the night, each of you occupied with your own separate interests and pursuits.
Maybe you’ve tried to reengage with your partner time and again, but it’s only made them more checked out and withdrawn. The harder you push, the more they retreat, leaving you frustrated, angry, and hurt.
If you want to breathe new life into your marriage or relationship, we encourage you to connect with us. Here at Cauley & Associates, our compassionate, evidence-based approach to couples therapy can help you and your partner interrupt old patterns, improve your communication, deepen your intimacy, and ultimately learn to work together as a team again.
Have any questions? Send us a message!
If Your Marriage Or Relationship Feels Stuck, You’re Not Alone
Relationships are hard. Every couple goes through seasons of disconnection, and many couples struggle to maintain the spark that brought them together when they first met. All too often, little issues build and build over time until they snowball into much bigger challenges. Small differences in needs, goals, and values remain unchecked for years and then one day become too glaring to ignore.
For couples in today’s busy, work-obsessed world, maintaining a healthy relationship is harder than it’s ever been. Work tends to consume so much time and energy, and coming home to “work” on a marriage or relationship can be exhausting, especially when there are children in the home.
Making quality time for each other can feel like just another item in a laundry list of demands. It’s a big reason why so many couples struggle to slow down, tune out all the distractions, and get quiet enough that they can really hear each other.
Many People Bring Unresolved Personal Issues Into Their Relationships
We all have our bad habits, our dysfunctional patterns that we carry from one relationship to the next. This is why it’s easy to point the finger at our partner’s patterns and say that they just need to fix themselves and everything will be alright.
Sometimes, however, we have to look ourselves in the mirror too. It takes two to tango, which is why it also takes two to mend a relationship’s wounds and restore a loving connection.
Counseling is about setting aside our need to be right and learning to recognize the role we play in our marriage or relationship’s dynamics. This is hard work, but with the right support and commitment, it’s possible to interrupt old patterns and create healthier ways of relating to each other.
Therapy Can Help Couples Open A New Chapter In Their Marriage
Many couples come to our practice carrying pain, disappointment, and the sense that things may never change. We’re here to tell you that with the right support and the willingness to work together, things can look very different. The small shifts in how you communicate, listen, and respond can lead to lasting change. Our role is to cultivate an atmosphere of emotional safety in which you and your significant other can:
- Rebuild trust and restore intimacy
- Feel seen, heard, and valued by each other
- Learn to communicate honestly and kindly about difficult topics
- Bring back the ability to laugh together
Our practice provides counseling for couples at all stages of their journeys—dating, engaged, married, and separated. We honor the diverse cultural backgrounds, experiences, and identities of every couple we serve. No matter your background or the challenges you face, we offer care and understanding that meets you where you are. With our team’s own lived experience, we bring personal insight to couples of color and interracial couples.
We’re also proud to offer couples therapy sessions that are jointly run by two different therapists. These co-led sessions are perfect for couples seeking more focused and accelerated support. They offer a balanced perspective and give couples the opportunity to demonstrate healthy, respectful communication in real time during therapy.
What To Expect In Couples Counseling Sessions
Therapy looks different for every couple and every clinician. Sometimes it’s very directive and skills-based, and other times it’s more exploratory and insight-oriented. Our practice often uses the Gottman Method to help couples uncover the deeper patterns that are driving their conflicts. We seek to help them understand their individual patterns better so that they can communicate from a place of compassion, empathy, and respect.
Sometimes this deeper understanding comes about during powerful moments of silence between couples, and it’s important to stop and reflect when this happens. We like to use the concept of “wait time,” encouraging partners to pause before responding, which reduces reactive communication and enhances self-awareness. Through an approach called Emotionally-Focused Therapy, we help couples learn the art of mirroring and reflective listening and teach them to use “I” statements instead of “you” statements.
Our practice also utilizes mindfulness techniques to help couples regulate their emotions during conflict, and we often draw from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help them challenge and reframe negative beliefs about each other.
We use a wide range of evidence-based approaches so that couples can ultimately leave counseling with the tools to navigate challenges on their own. In that sense, the work we do is deeply empowering—we want you and your partner to be able to nurture each other, build each other up, and restore trust in your relationship.
You May Have Some Questions About Couples Therapy…
Won’t talking about our issues just make us fight more?
In therapy, difficult conversations are guided safely and with respect. Our goal is to help both of you feel heard, understood, and supported, allowing you to grow closer and move forward together. Our therapists have lots of experience helping couples wade through difficult topics, and we know how to moderate these conversations so that tensions don’t amplify.
Are you going to tell us to divorce?
No, we won’t. Our job is to help you see your relationship from a different perspective and give you the skills and insights to change how you show up in your relationship. What’s more, we want to help remind you of your strengths as well as the reasons you initially fell in love. If you and your partner decide to part ways after doing the work of counseling, we will respect and support your decision, but we’re not here to tell you what to do.
What if our therapist sides with my partner?
Our role is to help you and your partner understand each other better, not pick a side and declare a winner. We’re here to support the relationship as a whole, creating a space where both of you feel seen, heard, and supported. If you ever feel like we’re leaning too far in one direction, we invite you to tell us, as feedback is a key part of the healing process.
So Much Of Your Relationship’s Story Still Has Yet To Be Written
At Cauley & Associates, we would love to help you continue writing your love story by rebuilding trust, rekindling intimacy, and reigniting your spark. To learn more about our unique approach to couples counseling, you can call us at (323) 931-6025, or fill out the contact form. We look forward to working with you!
Call (323) 931-6025, visit our contact page, or request an appointment to book a free 15-minute consultation. During our discussion, you can learn more about our anxiety disorder specialists and begin your therapy journey.
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